What is the difference between Domestic Violence and Domestic Abuse?

We hear these terms thrown around all of the time but what do the really mean and is it important to be able to distinguish between the two? The answer is YES! They many times coincide with one another but that is not always the case, and it is important to know the difference. Domestic Abuse can go undetected for years by the victim due to normalization/justification and or a Trauma Bond. Also, this can be overlooked by friends and family because the abuse is most often covert or behind closed doors.

When I used to hear people talk about abuse in the past I would always think about bruises and broken bones and violent burst of outrageous behavior. There are however other forms of abuse that are not so obviously seen which fall under the domestic abuse. These patterns of behavior by the abuser are classed as coercive control, financial control, emotional/psychological control, sexual abuse, stalking and harassment, cyberbullying.

It is important to remember that abuse is NOT normal and NOT acceptable!

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse:

• Call 911 if in immediate danger.

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788

• Strong Hearts Native Helpline – 844-762-8483.

• National Center for Victims of Crime – 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846).

  Domestic abuse is a broader term that includes various forms of control and mistreatment, while domestic violence specifically refers to physical acts of violence.

  Both are serious and harmful, but they differ in scope and legal context

           Key Differences Between Domestic Abuse and Domestic Violence

  Term Definition Scope of Behavior

  Domestic Abuse: A pattern of behavior used to control, Includes: emotional, psychological,

  intimidate, or manipulate a partner financial, sexual, and physical abuse

• Domestic Violence: Physical acts of violence within Specifically: refers to hitting, slapping, a a domestic setting kicking, or other physical harm

        Abuse Is Broader Than Violence

  • Domestic abuse can occur without any physical contact. It includes:

  • Emotional manipulation

  • Financial control

  • Threats and intimidation

  • Isolation from friends and family

  • Domestic violence is a subset of abuse that involves physical force or assault.

  Legal Context

  • In civil law, domestic abuse may be grounds for restraining orders or custody changes.

  • In criminal law, domestic violence often refers to prosecutable offenses like assault or battery.

        Why the Distinction Matters

  Understanding the difference helps:

  • Survivors recognize harmful patterns even if no physical violence has occurred

  • Professionals tailor support and legal responses appropriately

  • Society broadens awareness beyond visible injuries